regarding Fifty Shades of Grey and Magic Mike

Just in case you don’t recognize either of those titles (which I would venture to guess only applies to those of you with out Facebook…), Fifty Shades of Grey is the first of a trilogy that has become very popular this summer and Magic Mike is a movie that came out recently (I think this past weekend).


Several months ago Michael and I were in a bookstore and I saw a display for Fifty Shades of Grey.  At that point I knew nothing of the premise of the book/trilogy but I had heard/seen many people talking and posting about it so I mentioned to Michael that I thought this was going to be the hot book for the summer.  Right as I picked it up to look at it Michael said he had heard that it was a pretty raunchy book and wouldn’t you know, the first thing I opened up to was a very steamy scene.  Now, I’m an avid reader so I’ve come upon books in the past that have had a few scenes that are a bit too graphic in my opinion but they were just a small part of the overall story, and so I assumed that was the case with Fifty Shades of Grey.  I put it back and went on but as the hype grew and grew I came to find out that this wasn’t your run of the mill romance novel, instead Fifty Shades of Grey is classified as an erotic novel.  Some have dubbed this “female porn” or “mommy porn”.  I decided I would not be reading these books, no matter how popular, and I have been incredibly shocked with how many of my friends have read them.  This disturbs me and I’ve been wanting to address it but I didn’t really know what to say.  Fortunately someone shared this article with me that does a great job expressing my thoughts and feelings.  Please check this out:

I’m Not Reading Fifty Shades of Grey

Then a few weeks ago I start seeing all this stuff on Facebook and Pinterest about Magic Mike.  I gathered that it was a movie but hadn’t heard of it, so I finally Googled it and watched the trailer.  In case you are in the dark like I was, it’s a movie about male strippers.  And many, many of my friends went to see it.  On the heels of finding the Fifty Shades of Grey article I posted above, I also found this article called “Should Christian women see Magic Mike?“.  I encourage you to click on the link and read the (very short) article, but the main thing I got out of the article is “Would you take Jesus with you to see Magic Mike?”.  Definitely something to think about.

Before I go any further, I do need to say that I haven’t read the book or seen the movie, nor do I intend to, so I know that some are going to say that I’m not making a fair assessment, but think that God (via Paul) lays it out pretty clear in Galatians 5:19-21 when He says that immorality, impurity, and sensuality are deeds of the flesh and that those who practice these things will not inherit the kingdom of God.  Both this book and this movie are designed to be sensual and it pains me to see my Christian sisters endorsing them.

Please take these verses into consideration and think twice about partaking in either of these activities.

“Finally brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things” – Philippians 4:8

“Do not love the world nor the things in the world.  If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.  For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world.” – 1 John 2:15-16

“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.” – Romans 12:2



  1. Oh My Goodness. I’ve had so many of the same thoughts concerning these things and have been thinking about how I could write something effective. I’m so glad you’ve written this and shared the article about each item. All were well written and leave no questions. I wholeheartedly agree. NO WAY will I read the books or see the movie. It does also break my heart and truly cause me to really pray for my Christian sisters.
    Thanks for the time taken. I’m blessed to read this much need warning.

  2. Until this week, I had never heard of the book you mentioned…but I have seen a LOT on facebook about the movie, Magic Mike. Now, I will admit I am tempted to go and drool with all my female friends, but I thought about it. My first reaction was that I don’t think I’d appreciate it if my husband was going to see a movie about a bunch of young beautiful female strippers. That decided it for me. I am not going to see the movie, no matter how “fun” my friends make it sound.
    Oh, and after looking up the review on the Shades of Gray – I DEFINITELY won’t be reading that. Whatsoever things are good, pure, honest, of a good report – nope, these two forms of entertainment don’t fit the definition of what I need to be thinking about!
    Thanks again!

    • celina boulanger says:

      this is the thing that gets me….of all the people i know with regards to reading/watching that NOT ONE OF THEM would accept their hubbies reading this type of stuff or watcing this type of movie with female stars…NOT ONE OF THEM!! I am also shocked at those who are reading this book, aren’t the ladies i thought would be reading this..and posting about their physical reactions to it….i find it all EXTREMELY strange. If you are going to watch/read at least call it what it is..erotica..and deal with it.

  3. Preach it sister! =) Saying things like this won’t make you very popular these days, but it’s the truth.

  4. I’m so glad you wrote this!

  5. I am visiting your blog for the first time. I saw the title on We Are THAT Family and i clicked. As an older Christian woman, I am over joyed to read this. I can’t believe what many of the younger Christian men and women choose to read, listen to and watch. Honestly, they are no different than the non-believers when making these choices. Please encourage your Christian friends to pray about movies, TV, books and music. It matters.

  6. Totally agree. The books don’t entice me at all, but I’d be lying if I said my reaction after I first saw the Magic Mike trailer on TV was anything other than a jaw-dropping “Wow!” However, immediately after pulling myself together I decided I would not be going to see the movie because it would not be honoring to my husband or my marriage. End of story.

  7. I just don’t get it. When did drooling over someone other than your spouse become so acceptable? Yuck! And I have no interest in watching or hearing about someone else’s s-e-x life. I really have no need to ;-) Was it Dr. Laura who said “if you’re getting steak at home, why would you go out for a hamburger?” My adult daughter doesn’t like it when explicit scenes are included in movies. She was complaining about one movie she watched and I said, “Yeah, but weren’t they married?” (Thinking that kind of relationship was healthy — I don’t want to raise a prude.) And she replied, “Yes — but not to me!”

  8. Thank you for this post! It makes me so very sad to see others endorsing books/movies like these. They truly are porn. How very sad, especially when it’s other Christians. The verses you put speak directly against such actions. Thanks for going against the flow!

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